The Blessings of Singleness: Faithfully Embracing This Fruitful Season!
“And the unmarried or betrothed woman is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to be holy in body and spirit.”
1 Corinthians 7:34
Society and the church has often made singles feel like something is wrong with us and that our lives have not started until we are in a relationship. or married. Singleness does not always feel the best and it is most certainly not always easy. but it has some AMAZING benefits! I mean, have you ever sat down and made a list of ALL of the amazing things you can do for the Lord, yourself, and others while you are single?
Do you know your purpose? Your life mission, vision, values, calling, and seasonal assignment? What are your gifts, talents, and strengths that God wants you to use for the Kingdom? If you haven’t already, it’s time to get busy for the Lord. If you need some help doing that, check out my Holistic Self-Discovery Guide: https://www.haveaseat.blog/blog/mind-body-amp-soul-wellness-a-guide .
If you’re like me, you have a love/hate relationship with singleness. I get it. I’ve been single since birth and it has NOT been a cakewalk. BUT, I am grateful for all of the wisdom, discernment, and other ways God has grown me. I have had amazing experiences, met wonderful people, and I know God’s plan for my life is beyond what I could plan for myself.
Sis, I want to encourage you with this: you will not get this time nor this season back should the Lord send you an amazingly godly husband. Maximize this time and season NOW for yourself and God’s Kingdom. Singleness will not always feel the best, but it really has some amazing benefits!
So, here is a super long list of lots of things you can be doing and enjoying RIGHT now in your single season!!!
FREEDOM!!! Your own time. Your own money. Sleep when you want to! Do what you want, when, where, and how you want. And you don’t have to ask or inform anyone to do anything.
Growing deeper in your relationship with the Lord and ask Him to make you into the godly woman and disciple of Christ He wants you to be! You have abundant time with the Lord to pray; study, love, and apply God’s Word to Word to your life; and grow in the fruit of the Spirit.
Lots of personal, healing, growth, and investing in yourself spiritually, physically, emotionally, mentally, relationally, and financially.
Getting to know YOU. Learn about yourself and do some deep self-discovery about who you are, what you like and dislike; who and what you want in life, and in your future husband.
Pursuing and refining your Kingdom mission
Use the gifts that God has given you for His glory and the good of others.
Live your best single life for Jesus!
Grow in the fruit of the Spirit and kill sin; especially sexual sin,
Heal. Ask God to help you do the heart work to heal, grow in self-awareness, and emotional health (intelligence, maturity, vulnerability, availability). Therapy is also very helpful to heal from the past and address any heart issues you do know about or won’t until you go to therapy.
Learn to love yourself completely the way God does.
Pursue your mission, vision, passions, interests, and goals. Immerse yourself yourself in meaningful pursuits.
Surround yourself with healthy people and community.
Invest in/nurture loving and healthy relationships with family and friends.
Learn your boundaries and how to establish, communicate, enforce, and give consequences for those who cross and violate yours.
Adopt a child/children
Attend networking events and meet new people
Author a book
Advocacy work
Ask for the promotion
Be an advocate
Become a doula
Become an entrepreneur
Become a missionary
Become a teacher or professor
Buy the car
Buy a house
Campaign for a good cause
Change careers
Date yourself
Design the website or app
Develop a good skin care routine
Disciple girls and women
Foster a child/children
Find your personal style and learn how to dress cute for yourself (and on a budget)
Find a mentor and/or someone to disciple you.
Get that degree/those degrees
Go to seminary
Get your writing published
Go scuba diving
Go to college
God to trade school
Go to therapy
Gain the weight
Get stronger and healthier spiritually, physically, emotionally, and mentally.
Get your finances in order (give, save, get out of debt)
Grow in emotional health
Go on adventures by yourself and with friends
Heal from your childhood wounds and/or any trauma you’ve experienced
Help children
Help women
Improve your baking/cooking skills
Invent that cool gadget
Invest your time and energy wisely
Join a gym
Join an organization
Join social and meet up groups
Learn to code
Learn something new
Lose that weight
Learn to cook/bake
Learn about investing
Learn the art of conversation and how to communicate well
Learn how to healthily naviate conflict
Learn how to date with discernment. Figure out your non-negotiables, preferences, red flags, deal breakers, and good compromises.
Mentor and/or disciple others.
Meet new people and make friends.
Open an Etsy shop
Practice regular self-care
Pursue that promotion
Pursue a new hobby
Run for political office
Restore old friendships if God says it’s a good idea.
Regularly take yourself on dates and enjoy your own company
Regularly go on dates with your friends
Refine what your’re looking for in a godly husband.
Start lifting
Smash the patriarchy
Save babies, women, and men from the devestating effects of abortion
Start that blog
Start a Podcast
Start your business
Start a ministry
Start a Bible study
Start/join a walking or running group
Take up that new sport or hobby
Take that vacation
Travel, go on adventures, and explore new places by yourself
Travel, go on adventures, and explore new places with friends
Take care of your mind, boudy, soul, and spirit
Train for and run a 5k or marathon
Take online courses that interest you
Unlearn unhealthy patterns and habits
Volunteer in your community and serve others
Writer a Bible study
Write a book
AND MORE!
REFLECT & APPLY
What are some things that you can do while you’re single that are not on this list?
What are 3 ways God has been encouraging you to continue being faithful and embracing this fruitful season?
Did this list encourage and inspire you to do some things in your singleness that you hadn’t done before?
